There are men who are firmly convinced that "a good fuck" is the only thing. I claim that these men have never enjoyed a good fine massage - or in the lingua tantrica - a lingam massage.
Of course, the secret lies in the technique and whether the lady has mastered it. Surprisingly - and I have often had to realize this even in private - many women have no idea how to do a good intimate massage. I must admit, it is not easy. It is also difficult for a man to stimulate a woman manually by hand. After all, you yourself do not know what movement or touch feels like. But still, as with so many things, practice makes perfect.
As a good basis, the first thing to realize is that haphazard and wild rubbing is usually not a pleasure. The term "fine massage" can be interpreted to mean "fine" or gentle. To begin, delicately explore the penis, touching and stroking the glans or testicles. The use of oil is highly recommended. For many men dry massages are painful, unfortunately also something that some ladies are obviously not aware of.
Did you know that the American tantric Joe Kramer has developed countless techniques for lingam massage? There are far more ways to increase pleasure than enclosing the shaft with your hand and moving it up and down. The German tantra teacher Andro Rothe goes even further in his book "Orgasm School" and shows how you can experience an orgasm all over your body with the right technique. Breathing and delay techniques are also included.
In my opinion, it is worthwhile to deal with different techniques. As a woman, to give the man more pleasure and just as a man, to offer a woman more beautiful experiences apart from penetration.
